Marina | March 15, 2014 | Parenting |
As parents, sometimes it is easy for us to forget that we also have limitations when it comes to parenting. This is why I decided to write an article about the five significant life lessons that you should learn to remember if and when you become a parent. This way, you would not end up making too many mistakes when raising your child. He might even grow up to love you more if you do these things properly.
- Never Treat Your Children as Your Property and Investment
The first thing that you have to remember is that you do not your own your children. Most parents think that just because they are the ones who raised and cared for their children, that it is the children’s responsibility to give back to their parents. While it is true that as children we need to repay the kindness of our parents in some way, the parents should never impose that responsibility on their children.
Children should be allowed to live their own lives apart from the parents at some point. If you fail to do this, your children will become extremely dependent and unable to handle certain tasks alone. He or she will not be able to make decisions for himself and he will end up becoming a freeloader in the not too distant future.
It is also the parents’ responsibility to make sure that their children become productive members of the society. This is why you have to teach them responsibility and the right values at such a young age. As the bible says, teach a child in the way he should go and he will never depart from it. Keeping this in mind, if you start them young, taking responsibility for their own actions will be natural for them in the future.
- Trust That History Will Not Repeat Itself
Parents should also remember that their children are not them. Giving birth to them, does not mean that they will make the same choices you did. Children are far more intelligent than they get credit for. If you show them the pros and cons of their actions clearly, they would be able to make the right decision eventually. You just have to learn to trust their judgment.
- Always Be There For Your Children
Parenting also entails that you be there for your children. Just because your child seems to handle the situations he tends to face well enough on his own, it does not mean that he doesn’t need you anymore. You have to make sure that you can make yourself available for your children when they require your assistance. Just let them know that you will be there for them when they want to talk or if they need help of each any kind. Sometimes, knowing that they can rely on someone else from time to time gives them just the right amount of strength and confidence to go on.
These are just some of the pieces of wisdom that can help you become a great parent. If you are able to apply these, you will never have problems with your children growing up. Just don’t take parenting for granted and you will be just fine.
